How to Split a Bill for a Hen Do Without Starting a War

The Hen Do Financial Minefield

It starts with excitement: “Omg, Ibiza 2026!” It ends with passive-aggressive WhatsApp messages: “Hey hun, just waiting on your £4.50 for the inflatable penis straws x”

Hen dos are notorious for destroying friendships over money. The mix of high costs, varying incomes, and alcohol is a recipe for disaster.

Step 1: The “Anonymous Budget” Survey

Before you book a single thing, create a Google Form (or use Halfsy’s poll feature). Ask one question: > “What is the MAXIMUM you can afford for this trip, all in?”

Make it anonymous. If the lowest answer is £200, that is your budget. Do not plan a £500 trip and expect the person with the £200 budget to “figure it out.” They won’t. They will just resent you.

Step 2: The “Pay As You Go” Rule

Do not pay for everything yourself and expect to be reimbursed later. You are not a bank. * Flights: Everyone books their own. * Accommodation: Collect the money before you click “Book.” * Activities: If someone doesn’t pay by the deadline, they don’t go. Be ruthless. It saves arguments later.

Step 3: The “Kitty” for Small Stuff

For taxis, drinks, and snacks, do not split every receipt. It takes too long. Instead, have everyone put £50 into a pot (physical cash or a Monzo pot) at the start. Use this for shared expenses. When it runs out, top it up.

Step 4: The “Bride’s Share”

Traditionally, the hens pay for the bride. Make this explicit. “The total cost is £200pp, plus £20pp to cover Sarah’s share.” Do not hide it in the costs. People appreciate transparency.

Summary

Communication is key. Be clear, be firm with deadlines, and use an app to track who has paid what. The goal is to celebrate the bride, not argue about who paid for the prosecco.